I was having a conversation with one of my co workers the other day about why some people make you feel like you have to apologize for having confidence in yourself. This conversation hit home for me because this has been something I've dealt with a lot lately. You would think that in 2016 after all we've overcome my generation of young adults wouldn't have to deal with "mean girls". I'm literally reminded of that particular movie when it comes to certain women I have to deal with. Let's face it at some point of your life whether you are the nicest, most down to earth woman you're gonna have to deal with negative Nancy, bitter Betty or jealous Jessica.


Not all women live up to the stereotype of being fake, jealous or whatever you want to classify it. There are some really nice women out here but then there are the ones who make you wonder if you're still stuck in high school. What I've come to realize is that sometimes all it takes for someone to dislike you is you simply being confident in yourself. 

How many times have you heard a woman say, "I dont like her because she think's she's all that."? The older I get I realize how ridiculous that sounds. Most of the time insecure women who haven't learned how to deal with themselves will mistake your confidence with being arrogant as a reason to justify having ill feelings towards you. I don't understand how someone thinking they're cute or having goals can bother a human being so much. Rationally thinking, the only reason I can think someone would be so bothered is because they are either jealous, bitter or insecure....maybe all of the above. 


 I use to get so upset when women targeted me when I did nothing intentionally to them. Now I dont even take it personal. If you really care enough to try to figure out what the root cause of this negativity is you will realize that 9 times out of 10 the issue is really with them and not you. If it's a close friend then you should try to figure out what the issue is if you care about that friendship. If its genuine then you guys will eventually get on track to having healthy communication with each other. If it's somebody you just have to see because you guys have mutual friends or you work together then honestly it's not even worth letting it get to you. The main thing that these particular people want to do is try to shake your confidence and make you feel uncomfortable. They will do any and everything to make you upset but you can't feed into it. Any sane person will eventually get tired of looking stupid when you ignore them but if you're dealing with someone off of their rocker then sometimes you have to make it known that you are not the one for non sense.

It took me a very long time to get to where I am today so I will not be apologetic for finally loving myself and who God has made me. I hope that you guys feel the same way. Don't ever let someone make you feel bad for believing in yourself and having confidence. Continue to let your light shine and those who truly love you and love themselves will not have an issue with your confidence. You guys will simply shine together.