I want to take the time to be vulnerable right now and admit that in this stage of my life currently I'm struggling with wanting to finally be 23. For years now I've been so focused on pursuing my career that I feel like I've robbed myself of experiencing being a young teenager/adult. You see all of your peers out having fun partying, going on numerous dates and enjoying their lives then you realize that you're 23 with hardly any friends, you pretty much work and confine yourself to your room and you cant even get a guy to act right for 5 minute spans. (That was kind of funny.) When you try to go out you end up feeling super guilty about it the next day because you feel like you could've done so many other things to be more productive. Yep....That pretty much sums up my life over the past 7 years.
On the flip side I am grateful for my journey because I have realized a few different things that make me understand why my life is the way it is right now.
Understand that your 20's play a huge role in jump starting your career goals and it takes major sacrifice to be able to achieve them.
Having friends is important but you dont need 1000 of them. Its better to have a handful of friends who want to genuinely see you grow as a person and that can help uplift you rather than having a bunch of people who just want to party but cant help encourage you to strive to do better and be greater. You have to realize that not everyone who laughs with you wants the best for you. Be selective in who you allow into your personal space.
Its perfectly ok to be single! Use this time to invest in yourself. We all get lonely at some point in time but dont let your loneliness allow you to throw your morals and values out the window and settle for someone you know God never intended for you to be with. I'm just gonna sit that right there.
You dont have to be at every social event in town. Its ok to go out every now and then but never feel like you're obligated to party every weekend because your peers are doing it. Don't compromise yourself to be a part of the "in crowd" because at the end of the day you have to live with the choices you make.
I do know that we all have different mindsets. What may work for one person may not work for someone else so do what you feel is best for you and your development.
I encourage everyone who is young, single and trying to find balance in their life to recognize that its natural to feel like you're missing out on your young adulthood but remember to STAY THE COURSE. Don't give up. Take your time with jumping into relationships. Learn yourself and if you happen to meet someone along the way take the time to get to know who they are as well. Listen to your intuition. Don't work hard and play harder. Learn to work smarter. Love yourself and get rid of the dead weight that is keeping you from taking on your future head on.